The trials and tribulations of pregnancy
So as of today I am 23 weeks and 5 days pregnant and have been thinking a lot recently about pregnancy and how it is completely different to how I expected it would be.
I do find it strange for women that you spend a large proportion of your younger years doing everything you can to not get pregnant and then there is a shift and all you can think about is having a family and whether you will be able to get pregnant or not.
My husband and I have been together for 5 years and married for almost 2, I think having a family is something which both of us have always wanted, but have held off as we had other things we wanted to achieve first.
So after finally moving into our amazing family home last year and me getting the promotion I'd been working towards in work, we started talking more seriously about when would be the right time to start 'trying'.
After a lovely Christmas and New Year, as well as celebrating my 30th birthday we decided that rather than 'trying' we would leave it up to fate and see what happened...with the hope that I'd be pregnant in the later part of 2017.
Fast forward a month later, (i.e.the beginning of February), when I did a pregnancy test one Thursday morning while getting ready for work, as I just had a 'feeling' and it was confirmed that I was in fact pregnant.
To say we were shell shocked was an understatement, to be frank in recent years I had major apprehensions about whether I would actually be able to get pregnant due to me not having the best health, so the fact I had fallen pregnant basically on a first attempt was unbelievable to me.
Anyway, I would say I was extremely lucky in my first trimester due to me not having any morning sickness at all....I did have a bit of nausea but nothing in comparison to what some poor ladies have to deal with.
However, what I don't think anything could have prepared me for was the rollercoaster I was going to be on......when I think of friends that have been pregnant everyone has been so positive and you hear all the clichés of being 'glowing' etc.
Some of words I would use to sum of my pregnancy would be...Exhausting, emotional and in some cases just plain worrying.
It really is a minefield, every ache and pain you assume there is something wrong with the baby and you forget (no matter how much you try and remind yourself) that every women's pregnancy is completely different and it is ridiculous to compare yourself to others.
I by no means think I have had a difficult pregnancy in comparison to some, but I am writing this from my sofa whilst on 'bed rest' to allow me to recover from my second pretty serious UTI and having had a serious lecture from my GP about looking after myself as its not just about me anymore.
Some of the things I've found difficult is just how tired I have felt, this is something which I thought would ease off during my second trimester but alas I'm still suffering. When I've spoken to other friends who are mums I've had comments like 'Oh I was never that tired', which makes you wonder 'is it just me?'
Trying to then get on with your day to day life and keep on top of a demanding / stressful job can be really hard.
Another is everyone's obsession with your expanding waistline - I am always someone that has watched my waistline, so have found some of the comments hard to deal with. To be fair, even now at almost 24 weeks I'm relatively small, however have had comments like 'oh you don't look that pregnant yet' and 'your tiny' - which in hindsight are probably things I've said to mum's to be, without thinking that when your pregnant all you want is to have that bump, so comments on you being tiny can make you worry or just feel crap.
To be honest, I think most of issues stem from good old hormones and the fact that during pregnancy you are probably slightly more sensitive and less tolerant of peoples comments.
Some may view this as a negative post, but just to make it clear I am absolutely over the moon at being pregnant and there is literally nothing more that I would want more in my life right now.
I cannot wait till the day I get to meet my little boy for the first time and watch him grow and become an amazing little person, I also can't wait to see my husband become a dad and for us to have our own little family!
I cannot express just how grateful I am to have fallen pregnant so easily and to have reached more than half way through without major complications and can only hope that the next 16 weeks go quickly and that my little bundle is here!
I do find it strange for women that you spend a large proportion of your younger years doing everything you can to not get pregnant and then there is a shift and all you can think about is having a family and whether you will be able to get pregnant or not.
My husband and I have been together for 5 years and married for almost 2, I think having a family is something which both of us have always wanted, but have held off as we had other things we wanted to achieve first.
So after finally moving into our amazing family home last year and me getting the promotion I'd been working towards in work, we started talking more seriously about when would be the right time to start 'trying'.
After a lovely Christmas and New Year, as well as celebrating my 30th birthday we decided that rather than 'trying' we would leave it up to fate and see what happened...with the hope that I'd be pregnant in the later part of 2017.
Fast forward a month later, (i.e.the beginning of February), when I did a pregnancy test one Thursday morning while getting ready for work, as I just had a 'feeling' and it was confirmed that I was in fact pregnant.
To say we were shell shocked was an understatement, to be frank in recent years I had major apprehensions about whether I would actually be able to get pregnant due to me not having the best health, so the fact I had fallen pregnant basically on a first attempt was unbelievable to me.
Anyway, I would say I was extremely lucky in my first trimester due to me not having any morning sickness at all....I did have a bit of nausea but nothing in comparison to what some poor ladies have to deal with.
However, what I don't think anything could have prepared me for was the rollercoaster I was going to be on......when I think of friends that have been pregnant everyone has been so positive and you hear all the clichés of being 'glowing' etc.
Some of words I would use to sum of my pregnancy would be...Exhausting, emotional and in some cases just plain worrying.
It really is a minefield, every ache and pain you assume there is something wrong with the baby and you forget (no matter how much you try and remind yourself) that every women's pregnancy is completely different and it is ridiculous to compare yourself to others.
I by no means think I have had a difficult pregnancy in comparison to some, but I am writing this from my sofa whilst on 'bed rest' to allow me to recover from my second pretty serious UTI and having had a serious lecture from my GP about looking after myself as its not just about me anymore.
Some of the things I've found difficult is just how tired I have felt, this is something which I thought would ease off during my second trimester but alas I'm still suffering. When I've spoken to other friends who are mums I've had comments like 'Oh I was never that tired', which makes you wonder 'is it just me?'
Trying to then get on with your day to day life and keep on top of a demanding / stressful job can be really hard.
Another is everyone's obsession with your expanding waistline - I am always someone that has watched my waistline, so have found some of the comments hard to deal with. To be fair, even now at almost 24 weeks I'm relatively small, however have had comments like 'oh you don't look that pregnant yet' and 'your tiny' - which in hindsight are probably things I've said to mum's to be, without thinking that when your pregnant all you want is to have that bump, so comments on you being tiny can make you worry or just feel crap.
To be honest, I think most of issues stem from good old hormones and the fact that during pregnancy you are probably slightly more sensitive and less tolerant of peoples comments.
Some may view this as a negative post, but just to make it clear I am absolutely over the moon at being pregnant and there is literally nothing more that I would want more in my life right now.
I cannot wait till the day I get to meet my little boy for the first time and watch him grow and become an amazing little person, I also can't wait to see my husband become a dad and for us to have our own little family!
I cannot express just how grateful I am to have fallen pregnant so easily and to have reached more than half way through without major complications and can only hope that the next 16 weeks go quickly and that my little bundle is here!
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